People-Pleasing: Why It Happens and How to Stop
Do you say yes when you mean no? Do you apologize for things that aren't your fault? People-pleasing isn't really about being nice, it's often a response to deeper fears of rejection or conflict. While it might keep the peace short-term, it leaves you feeling resentful and disconnected from your authentic self. Learn why this pattern develops and discover practical steps to break free.
How to Deal with Guilt when Setting Boundaries
Many women feel guilty when they set a boundary because it’s confusing to the psyche. Normally, when we do something wrong, we feel guilty about it. This is an appropriate and helpful when it comes to correcting behaviors that goes against our value and intentions.
However, many women report feeling “bad” when they are simply taking care of themselves, facing conflict, or setting healthy limits. (A lot of women I talk to have a much easier time setting boundaries for their kids or for others than they do for themselves.)
Why is that? I think it’s a combination of factors, in particular the social construct of self-sacrifice which is present for women at all times, even when we are unaware of it.